Our Favorite Books

One of the best, easiest, and least expensive ways to learn the tools to help your child is through reading books.

Below is a list of tried-and-true confidence-building books. Every book on this list has been read our staff and is regularly recommended to clients who have described the book as very helpful.

Some of these books are skills for adults that you can teach your child, and some are books just for you, the parent. Remember, one of the best ways to help your child is to be a role model of the change you want them to make.

If you have additional suggestions for our recommended reading list please let us know.

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Cool, Calm, and Confident: A Workbook to Help Kids Learn Assertiveness Skills
by Lisa Schab LCSW
Help your child stand up for him or herself without being aggressive to reduce the chance of bullying and increase self-esteem. This book has 40 specific skills to share with your child.

The Confident Speaker: Beat Your Nerves and Communicate at Your Best in Any Situation
by Harrison Monarth and Larina Kase
This book is for adults who want to overcome the fear of public speaking and speak with confidence in all situations, from meetings to parties. Improve your skills and role model confident speaking for your child.


The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook for Kids: Help for Children to Cope with Stress, Anxiety, and Transitions 
Matthew McKay PhD , Lawrence Shapiro Ph.D. , Robin Sprague
This book is great because it shares relaxation exercises you can learn to improve your own mood (and your child’s since your mood influences them) and gives tips for how to teach the skills to your child.

Becoming a Calm Mom: How to Manage Stress and Enjoy the First Year of Motherhood
by Deborah Roth Ledley
Written by Confident Cub contributor, psychologist, and anxiety expert Dr. Deborah Roth Ledley, this book is packed with specific research-driven skills to help you be calm and stress free during the first year of motherhood and beyond.

See You Later, Procrastinator! 
By Pamela Espeland, Elizabeth Verdick
We all know how easy it can be for kids to put off getting things done. This book makes saying goodbye to procrastination entertaining and fun. It is ideal for elementary and middle school aged (8-14) students.


Freeing Your Child from Anxiety: Powerful, Practical Solutions to Overcome Your Child’s Fears, Worries, and Phobias
by Tamar Chansky
Written by Confident Cub contributor and renowned child anxiety expert, Dr. Tamar Chansky, this book has become a classic that thousands of parents say has been invaluable in helping them free their child from anxiety.

Freeing Your Child from Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder: A Powerful, Practical Program for Parents of Children and Adolescents
by Tamar Chanksy
Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) is an anxiety disorder that can wreck havoc on children and their families. Learn proven strategies for helping your child manage OCD with this well-written, practical book.

Freeing Yourself From Anxiety: The 4-Step Plan to Overcome Worry and Create the Life You Want
by Tamar Chanksy
Anxiety tends to run in families and many anxious kids have anxious parents. Help yourself (and your kids) overcome worry with this excellent self-help book grounded in well-researched cognitive-behavioral therapy principles.

What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Anxiety
by Dawn Huebner
Filled with great examples, illustrations, and room for kids to include their own examples and illustrations, this book is a wonderful one to read to and work through with your child. Ideal for children approximately ages 5-12.

Anxious 9 to 5: How to Beat Worry, Stop Second-Guessing Yourself, and Work with Confidence
by Larina Kase
Written by the founder of Confident Cub Anxious 9 to 5 helps you feel confident and stress-free before, during, and after your work day which can improve your work, sleep, parenting, and enjoyment of the time that you’re not working.

Up and Down the Worry Hill: A Children’s Book about Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder and its Treatment
by Aureen Pinto Wagner, Paul A. Jutton
This is a great book to read with your child with OCD. It has wonderful examples and illustrations for younger children with OCD, and is a valuable resource in understanding how OCD works and how to manage it.


The Optimistic Child: A Proven Program to Safeguard Children Against Depression and Build Lifelong Resilience
by Martin E. P. Seligman
Written by the founder of the positive psychology movement, Dr. Martin E. Seligman, psychology professor at The University of Pennsylvania, The Optimistic Child will help you help your child develop a positive outlook and enhance self-esteem.

Flourish: A Visionary New Understanding of Happiness and Well-being
by Martin E. P. Seligman
Dr. Seligman’s latest book, Flourish, expands upon ideas in his other books and helps the reader understand the key components of how to flourish: well-being, engagement, relationships, meaning and accomplishment.

Freeing Your Child from Negative Thinking: Powerful, Practical Strategies to Build a Lifetime of Resilience, Flexibility, and Happiness
by Tamar Chansky
Negative thinking can lead to anxiety, depression, poor self-esteem and other problems. The good news is that it can be reveresed. Learn powerful strategies to help your child retrain his brain and end negative thinking with this book.


The Highly Sensitive Child: Helping Our Children Thrive When the World Overwhelms Them
by Elaine Aron
Read this book to understand your sensitive, shy, or easily overwhelmed child and learn ways in which you can help him or her.

The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook: Proven, Step-by-Step Techniques for Overcoming your Fear
by Martin M. Antony and Richard P. Swinson
Written for adults but appropriate for teenagers this book provides a solid education as well as specific self-help cognitive-behavioral skills for overcoming shyness and social phobia.

The Out-of-Sync Child: Recognizing and Coping with Sensory Processing Disorder
by Carol Kranowitz
If you have a child that becomes easily overwhelmed or upset by sensory stimulation (things feel too tight, sound too loud, feel too close, and so on), this book will provide valuable insights and strategies.


Emotional Intensity in Gifted Students: Helping Kids Cope With Explosive Feelings 
by Christine Fonseca
Gifted children often experience emotional intensity which can lead to communication difficulties with parents, teachers, and peers, tantrums, outbursts, and anxiety. This book provides excellent examples of communication changes to make.

The Confident Leader: How the Most Successful People Go From Effective to Exceptional
by Larina Kase
Written by Confident Cub founder Larina Kase The Confident Leader is about how to move yourself beyond your comfort zone, accomplish challenges you never thought possible, and be an insprining role model in your work, family, or community.

Mindset: The New Psychology of Success
by Carol S. Dweck
This book on mindset with shift your mindset. Learn the mistake that most people make with gifted children which leads to anxiety and perfectionism and many other research-based psychology principles.

Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child The Heart of Parenting by John Gottman, Joan Declaire, Foreword
by Daniel Goleman
Emotional intelligence is the heart of success in school, work, and relationships, as well as improved health and confidence. Read this book to learn the five-step “emotion coaching” process to help your child develop emotional intelligence.


A Smart Girl’s Guide to Friendship Troubles
by Patti Kelley Criswell and Angela Martini (American Girl Book)
Girls face many friendship challenges, from dealing with gossip and back-stabbing to being left out of cliques. Find many examples, stories, quizzes, and other enjoyable ways to deal with the friendship troubles of girls approximately ages 8-15.

Friends: Making Them & Keeping Them (American Girl Book) 
Patti Kelley Criswell
Relationships with friends is one of the most important facets of life for girls and young teenagers. This book is a fun-lively way to learn the nuances of making new friends and improving relationships with existing friends.

1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12
by Thomas W. Phelan PhD
Read this book for a crash course on child discipline. Different types of discipline may work better with different types of kids, and like anything, the key is consistency. This book is a great place to start to learn about an approach that may be effective for your child.

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk
by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
The key to having children feel comfortable talking with you is that they feel like you listen and “get” them. This book has many specific techniques and excellent examples and illustrations on how to implement them.

Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too
by Adele Faber
Understand how sibling rivalry works and what you the parent should not do to add fuel to the fire as well as what you can do to defuse tension and promote loving sibling relationships without rivalry.

Inspiring Children’s Books

An Awesome Book of Thanks!
by Dallas Clayton

Oh, the Places You’ll Go!
by Dr. Seuss

Did I Ever Tell You How Lucky You Are?
by Dr. Seuss

Beautiful Oops!
by Barney Saltzberg

The All-American Jump and Jive Jig
by M. P. Hueston and Amanda Haley

Only One You
by Linda Kranz

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